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íîâàòûì, è Ìýðè áûëà ðàññòðîåíà òåì, ÷òî îí íàïèëñÿ è ïðèøåë
äîìîé òàê ïîçäíî. Òèì ïîñòóïèë â ýòîé ñèòóàöèè, êàê îí îáû÷íî
ýòî äåëàë, òî åñòü íàïèëñÿ ñíîâà è â ñëåäóþùèé âå÷åð. Ìû âìåñ-
òå îáñóäèëè âñå ýòè ñîáûòèÿ ñ òî÷êè çðåíèÿ òîãî, êàêîé óðîê äëÿ
ñåáÿ Òèì ìîã áû èçâëå÷ü èç ïðîèñøåäøåãî. ×àñòü íàøåãî îáñóæ-
äåíèÿ çàêëþ÷àëàñü â îáúÿñíåíèè Òèìó, ÷òî åãî ïüÿíñòâî â óèê-ýíä
ñëóæèò ïðèìåðîì ÿâëåíèÿ ïîòåðè êîíòðîëÿ, ÷àñòî ïðîÿâëÿþ-
ùèìñÿ ïðè àëêîãîëèçìå. Â ðåçóëüòàòå ñâîåãî ðåöèäèâà Òèì âûðà-
çèë áîëåå èñêðåííåå óáåæäåíèå, ÷òî îí â ñàìîì äåëå àëêîãîëèê è
íóæäàåòñÿ â îòêàçå îò ñïèðòíîãî.
Îãëÿäûâàÿñü íàçàä, ÿ ïîíÿë, ÷òî ìíå ñëåäîâàëî íàñòðîèòüñÿ,
òàê êàê òåðàïèÿ Òèìà ïðîõîäèëà ñëèøêîì ãëàäêî è ÷òî ÿ,
âîç-
ìîæíî
, ìîã êàêèì-òî ñïîñîáîì ïîìåøàòü âîçíèêíîâåíèþ ðåöèäè-
âà. ß, âåðîÿòíî, áûë â ñîñòîÿíèè èñïîëüçîâàòü íåêîòîðûå òåõíè-
êè êîñâåííîãî âîçäåéñòâèÿ, îïèñàííûå â ãëàâå 4. Íàïðèìåð, ÿ ìîã
óïîìÿíóòü ãèáåëüíûå ðåçóëüòàòû, êîòîðûå âîçíèêàëè, êîãäà äðó-
ãèå ïàöèåíòû, èìåâøèå óäîâëåòâîðèòåëüíûé ïðîãíîç, íà÷èíàëè
äóìàòü, ÷òî îíè ìîãëè ïèòü, ñîõðàíÿÿ êîíòðîëü çà ýòèì.
Ïî ìîåé ïðîñüáå Òèì ñîãëàñèëñÿ ïðèâåñòè ñâîþ ïîäðóãó Ìýðè
íà ñëåäóþùèé ñåàíñ. Îí òàêæå ñîãëàñèëñÿ ñíîâà ïîñåùàòü ñîáðà-
íèÿ Àíîíèìíûõ àëêîãîëèêîâ. ß ñêàçàë, ÷òî åãî àêòèâíîå ó÷àñòèå
âî âñòðå÷àõ Àíîíèìíûõ àëêîãîëèêîâ ïîìîãëî áû ìíå áûòü áîëåå
ñïîêîéíûì çà íåãî, êîãäà ìû ñ íèì áóäåì ðåæå âñòðå÷àòüñÿ, à
òàêæå ïîñëå çàâåðøåíèÿ òåðàïèè.
Íà âîñüìîé ñåàíñ, ÷åðåç äåâÿòü äíåé, Òèì ïðèøåë âìåñòå ñ
Ìýðè è ñîîáùèë, ÷òî ïîñåòèë òðè ñîáðàíèÿ Àíîíèìíûõ àëêîãî-
ëèêîâ. Îí òàêæå çàÿâèë, ÷òî áîëåå ñïîêîéíî îòíîñèòñÿ ê àêòèâ-
íîìó ó÷àñòèþ â ýòîé äåÿòåëüíîñòè. Òèì, Ìýðè è ÿ îáñóæäàëè èõ
âçàèìîîòíîøåíèÿ è àëêîãîëèçì Òèìà. Ìíîãî âíèìàíèÿ áûëî óäå-
ëåíî òîìó, êàê êàæäûé èç íèõ ìîã áû ëó÷øèì îáðàçîì âåñòè ñåáÿ
â ñèòóàöèè, êîãäà íåñêîëüêî íåäåëü íàçàä Òèì íàïèëñÿ. ß ïðåä-
ëîæèë Ìýðè, ÷òîáû îíà ó÷àñòâîâàëà â ñîáðàíèÿõ ÷ëåíîâ ñåìåé
àëêîãîëèêîâ, è ïîëó÷èë ñîãëàñèå.
Íà äåâÿòîì ñåàíñå, ÷åðåç äâå íåäåëè, Òèì è ÿ îáñóæäàëè, ÷òî
ïðîèçîøëî â åãî æèçíè, è çàíèìàëèñü ãèïíîòè÷åñêîé ðàáîòîé. Â
îáùåì, ðàáîòà áûëà íàïðàâëåíà íà óñèëåíèå ïîçèòèâíûõ ðåçóëü-
òàòîâ, äîñòèãíóòûõ Òèìîì, è íà âíóøåíèå åùå áîëüøåé ñèëû è
áîëüøåãî êîíòðîëÿ. Òèì âåë òðåçâóþ æèçíü ïîñëå ñâîåãî ðåöèäè-
âà, ðåãóëÿðíî ïðîâîäèë ñàìîãèïíîç è ïîñåùàë â ñðåäíåì òðè ñî-
áðàíèÿ Àíîíèìíûõ àëêîãîëèêîâ êàæäóþ íåäåëþ. Ìýðè ïîñåùàëà
îäíî ñîáðàíèå ÷ëåíîâ ñåìåé àëêîãîëèêîâ â íåäåëþ, è îíè ñ Òè-
ìîì õîðîøî ëàäèëè ìåæäó ñîáîé.
×åðåç äâå íåäåëè, íà äåñÿòîì ñåàíñå, Òèì ñêàçàë ìíå, ÷òî Ìýðè
ñïðàøèâàåò, êîãäà îíè ïîæåíÿòñÿ. Òèì ïðåäëîæèë ÷åðåç øåñòü
ìåñÿöåâ, è îíà ñîãëàñèëàñü. Íî êîãäà ÿ ñïðîñèë åãî îá îñíîâàíè-
ÿõ äëÿ øåñòèìåñÿ÷íîãî îæèäàíèÿ, Òèì íå ñìîã íè÷åãî îáúÿñíèòü,
è áûëî ÿñíî, ÷òî ýòî îòðàæàëî åãî òåíäåíöèþ èçáåãàòü ïðèíÿòèÿ
îòâåòñòâåííîñòè. Ïî ñîáñòâåííîé èíèöèàòèâå Òèì ðåøèë óäèâèòü
Ìýðè ñâîèì íîâûì ðåøåíèåì æåíèòüñÿ ñêîðåå, è ýòî ñîáûòèå
ïðîèçîøëî ÷åðåç òðè íåäåëè.
ß ïðîäîëæàë âèäåòü Òèìà, ïîñòîÿííî óâåëè÷èâàÿ èíòåðâàëû
ìåæäó ïðèåìàìè, ïîêà, íàêîíåö, òåðàïèÿ íå çàâåðøèëàñü íà ÷å-
òûðíàäöàòîì ñåàíñå. Õîòÿ Ìýðè ïðåêðàòèëà ïîñåùàòü ñîáðàíèÿ
÷ëåíîâ ñåìåé àëêîãîëèêîâ, Òèì ïðîäîëæàë àêòèâíî ó÷àñòâîâàòü â
ñîáðàíèÿõ Àíîíèìíûõ àëêîãîëèêîâ. ×àñòü ïîñëåäíåãî ñåàíñà áûëà
ïîñâÿùåíà ãèïíîòè÷åñêîé ðàáîòå, âî âðåìÿ êîòîðîé ÿ ïîáëàãîäà-
ðèë Òèìà è îñîáåííî åãî áåññîçíàòåëüíóþ ïñèõèêó è ïðîâåë âíó-
øåíèå äëÿ ïðîäîëæåíèÿ åãî ðîñòà. Âîò çàïèñü ÷àñòè ýòîé êîììó-
íèêàöèè.
Òèì, ÿ çíàþ, ÷òî âàì íå íóæíû ìîè áëàãîäàðíîñòè,
íî ÿ õî÷ó ïîáëàãîäàðèòü âàñ è âñå ÷àñòè âàøåé ïñèõèêè,
îñîáåííî âàøó áåññîçíàòåëüíóþ ïñèõèêó, çà êîììóíèêà-
öèþ è çà âñå õîðîøåå, ÷òî âû ñäåëàëè äëÿ ñåáÿ ñàìîãî.
Âñå, ÷òî âû ïåðåæèëè çäåñü, îñòàíåòñÿ â âàøåé áåññîç-
íàòåëüíîé ïñèõèêå, äàæå åñëè âàøà ñîçíàòåëüíàÿ ïñèõèêà
ñìîæåò ýòî çàáûòü. Êîãäà áû ýòî âàì íè ïîòðåáîâàëîñü,
âàøà áåññîçíàòåëüíàÿ ïñèõèêà íàïîìíèò ñîçíàòåëüíîé
âñå, ÷òî ÿâëÿåòñÿ âàæíûì. ß õîòåë áû ñêàçàòü, ÷òî âû
ìîæåòå íàó÷èòüñÿ ãîðàçäî áîëüøåìó, ÷åì ïîíèìàåò âàøå
ñîçíàíèå, è âñå, ÷åìó âû íàó÷èëèñü, áóäåò ïîìîãàòü âàì
â äàëüíåéøåì. Âàì, âîçìîæíî, áûëî áû èíòåðåñíî óç-
íàòü, êàê ìíîãî ïîëåçíîãî è êàêèìè ðàçíûìè ïóòÿìè âû
ïðèîáðåëè.
×åðåç ïîëãîäà ïîñëå îêîí÷àíèÿ òåðàïèè ÿ ïîëó÷èë îò Òèìà ñî-
îáùåíèå, ÷òî îí îòìåòèë ãîäîâùèíó ñ ìîìåíòà, êàê áðîñèë ïèòü.
Îí àêòèâíî ó÷àñòâîâàë â äåÿòåëüíîñòè îáùåñòâà Àíîíèìíûõ àëêî-
ãîëèêîâ, îòêðûë åùå îäèí ïóíêò õèì÷èñòêè, è îíè ñ Ìýðè îæè-
äàëè ðîæäåíèÿ âòîðîãî ðåáåíêà.
10. ÈÑÒÈÍÀ
 ãëàâå 1 ìû çàÿâèëè, ÷òî íå çíàåì íèêàêîé äðóãîé èñòèíû,
êðîìå íàøèõ ñîáñòâåííûõ ðåàëüíîñòåé. Âîçìîæíî, ýòî óòâåðæäå-
íèå áûëî îäíîé èç íàøèõ õîðîøî èçâåñòíûõ òåðàïåâòè÷åñêèõ
âûäóìîê.
Ïîñêîëüêó âû ïðî÷èòàëè óæå òàê ìíîãî, âàì, ìîæåò áûòü,
èíòåðåñíî, ÷òî ó àâòîðîâ â îáùåé ñëîæíîñòè èìååòñÿ ÷åòâåðî áèî-
ëîãè÷åñêèõ äåòåé, åùå ÷åòâåðî äåòåé íàøèõ æåí, è ìû íå îãðàíè-
÷èìñÿ ýòèì. Áóäó÷è îòöàìè, ìû õîòèì çíàòü íåêèå èñòèíû, ÷òî-
áû ïðåïîäàòü èõ ñâîèì äåòÿì. Âîò ïÿòü òàêèõ èñòèí, ïðèîáðåòåííûõ
íàìè â æèçíè!
Åñëè ñîìíåâàåøüñÿ, èäè âïåðåä.
Áóäü óïîðíûì è íå ëåíèñü.
Åñëè ó òåáÿ ÷òî-òî ÷åøåòñÿ, ïî÷åøèñü!
Òû íèêîãäà íå áóäåøü ñëèøêîì ñòàð äëÿ òîãî, ÷òîáû ñèäåòü íà
êîëåíÿõ ó ñâîåãî îòöà.
Íèêîãäà íå çàêàí÷èâàé ïèñàòü êíèãó â ïîëíîëóíèå.
Âû, ìîæåò áûòü, ñîìíåâàåòåñü, ñ÷èòàåì ëè ìû äåéñòâèòåëüíî
ýòè èñòèíû æèçíåííî âàæíûìè. Ñîìíåâàéòåñü!
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